“It’s not you, it’s me!”
We typically hear this phrase when someone is lightly breaking the news to a partner when ending the relationship. Relationships are hard; there’s no doubt about that, but when you deal with silent killers, it may complicate things further. Silent killers are not serious health conditions like aneurysms or diabetes. In fact, they are not physical problems at all. Silent killers are emotional concerns and are typically unnoticeable. When you enter into a relationship, a physical problem may be evident while an emotional issue may be not. It is time to uncover the silent killers and treat them before they affect, or even ruin, a future relationship.
We all have our varying emotional issues. Most of the time, we ignore these problems and avoid addressing them altogether. Relationships truly have a way of revealing our inner demons, even when it concerns our interactions with friends and family. But for intimate relationships, emotional issues tend to have a strong effect. For instance, if you met someone whom you were interested in dating but felt a sense of unease about their emotional state, would you stick around? Understandably, it is easier to practice patience with a family member or friend versus a stranger or new acquaintance.
Managing Silent Killers
Silent killers include everything from anxiety and depression to Attention Deficit Disorder. Often, many of us have these issues and are unaware of them. When symptoms of stress or uneasy feelings are consistent, it may be due to a clinical problem. Anxiety may prevent us from branching out and trying new things while depression can stop us from forming connections with people. When you are depressed, you can be a drag in a relationship. ADD, which is usually diagnosed early on in childhood, can be easily managed with medication. Some, however, continue in their lives unaware they have a disorder that may be affecting their relationships negatively.
All of these potential silent killers can lead to bad communication, abusive behavior, and/or cause you to lose focus on what matters in your relationship. You can take control of these issues by talking to your partner, friends, and family. If further action is needed, reaching out to a psychiatrist may be your best option.