Let It Out
We have all experienced grief in one form or another. It is a feeling that no one desires to feel, but it is a part of life. Grief and the sense of loss go hand in hand. Normally grief is felt with the death of something. Although it is an emotion, it affects almost every aspect of your being. You may behave differently. You may even feel physically tired or become sick easier. Everybody handles grief differently. There are some who do not allow themselves to feel it at all. If you are grieving, it is good to have someone there to comfort you. If you do not trust anyone, talking to a licensed professional can be very helpful.
Humans experience loss all the time. As much as we may want those around us to live forever, they cannot. The loss is especially hard when it is a surprise. It is sometimes easier when we are planning and preparing to lose someone or something, like a pet, but when it hits us out of nowhere, the sense of grief is tremendous. Grief is not always associated with death. Grief can occur when major changes take place. Retiring from a job that you worked on for so long can be a source of grief. It is a loss in the sense that you will not see those same faces every day, or you won’t be able to make the impact you once did in the company. Grief may also come along when your children move out the house. You are so used to them being around that when they grow up and move out, you feel a sense of loss. They are still your children but it is hard letting them go. Divorce may lead to grief, especially when it comes as a surprise. It is the loss of marriage. It is hard when divorce happens after years of being married to someone.
Everyone does not react the same way to grief. There are those who initially mourn. The feeling is overbearing, and they cannot control their tears. Mourning is good. Letting out those emotions is good. As you let it out, you can begin to heal. Some people initially have no feeling at all. They are numb and in denial. Your mind may start racing from grief. You may try to figure out what could have been done to prevent the situation. Depression is a common feeling. Anger is as well. Both emotions can lead to risky behavior. Eventually, you get to the point of acceptance. There are some who never get to the point of acceptance.
When grief is masked, you may never recover from a loss. Grief may lead people to overwork themselves, so they do not have to sit and think about what happened. Grief can lead to over compulsive behavior. It can affect your mental state. Substance abuse is common in situations where grief is present. The substances you may take, whether drugs or alcohol, make you numb to your feelings. You get a false sense of euphoria that is only temporary. Addiction can become a part of you when you allow those things to be your coping mechanism. Sometimes a loss can bring anxiety. As a parent, you may become overly protective of your kids. You may also disregard your feelings altogether.
There are many different ways you can get over grief. The first way is to allow yourself to feel the grief. Suppressing those emotions does not help you. Letting out your feelings can be a relief. Writing how you feel down is good. If you are a person that keeps a journal, you should write your feelings out. In a way, it helps you organize your thoughts and get a sense of your true feelings. Opening up to someone may also be helpful. Having a shoulder to cry on can bring relief. If you have someone, that is there for you and can help that is good. Laughter is also very good for you. Just having someone that makes you feel better is wonderful. Finding groups are good. There are groups specific to your loss that you can join. Being around people who have dealt with the same situations and hearing how they handled it can give you tips on handling your grief. Therapy may be the best way for you to get over grief. Therapy is usually done in cases where the loss is overwhelming, and you cannot handle it on your own. Therapy is also best for those who may deal with depression or suicidal thoughts after a loss.
Grief is not easy. Dealing with grief is not the same for everyone. The best thing is to let it out. To get over the loss, you have to let your feelings out. You may think holding it in is best, but it leads to other behaviors that may not be good for you. You may not notice initially, but grief can be the source of your mood and behavior changes. Grief is a normal part of life. If you are experiencing grief, find ways to work through it. If you have trouble dealing with your grief, seek professional help. You do not have to go through it alone.
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