Chills & Thrills | The Fear of Love

Do you get giddy when your crush comes around? Or have “butterflies” in your stomach just at the thought of seeing them? There’s no feeling like it in the world. But, for some, it can be the worst feeling in the world.

Love has the ability to leave us vulnerable and feeling exposed. For those who suffer from Philophobia, love is more than emotional turmoil; it can leave sufferers with a poor quality of life both physically and mentally. “Philo” means loving or beloved and “phobia” means fear. Philophobia tends to develop after a previous traumatic emotional experience. Often when we begin a new relationship, we are leery of jumping in too fast. Love can stir up past hurts and remind us to take it slow. For others, emotional scars can lead to a life of solitude.

Symptoms of philophobia include

  • Anxiety and nervousness at the mere thought of commitment
  • Suppressing your innermost feelings
  • Avoiding places that couples are known to frequent – such as movie theaters or restaurants
  • Avoiding not just marriage, but the wedding ceremonies of others.
  • Almost complete exclusion from the world for fear of falling in love
  • Physical symptoms such as shaking, sweating, racing heartbeat, or nausea at the very thought of love or romance.

For those suffering from philophobia, however, there are ways to deal with the fear. Various options like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Exposure Therapy, or in extreme cases, medication. If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of philophobia, schedule an appointment with your Board Certified Psychiatrist today.