Low self-esteem is a common issue among people of all ages from children to adults. It can often be as simple as feeling like you’re not good enough, or that everything you do, if not done perfectly, amounts to failure. Oftentimes people can blame themselves for things that go wrong even if it’s not there fault.
Low self-esteem can really become the root of so many bigger problems, such as ending up in destructive relationships, making poor business decisions and failing to live up to your full potential.
What is Self-Esteem & Where Does It Come From?
In psychological terms, self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of personal value and self-worth. Self-esteem can equate to different things for different people, such as their beliefs about their image, their beliefs, behaviors and emotions.
Components of Self Esteem
In the book, “The Psychology of Self-Esteem,” by Braden, N. published in 1969. He describes the three components of self-esteem as:
- An essential human need that is vital for survival and normal, healthy development.
- It arises automatically from within based upon a person’s thoughts, behaviors, feelings and actions.
- It occurs in conjunction with a person’s beliefs and self-consciousness.
Effects of Low Self-Esteem
- Confidence. If you have low self-esteem you typically have low confidence in the sense that you thing everything you do will be wrong or not good enough. This further prevents you from trying new things, which is essential for human growth and development.
- Assertiveness. You are less prone to speaking up when you think your opinions or views are not worth anything and unimportant. A further feeling of unmet needs can cause you to be bitter and resentful.
- Anger. It is easy to get anger problems when your feelings of frustration, and unfairness go on.
- Anxiety. Anxiety is a common issue with low-self esteem when it comes to trying new things and taking on new challenges when you are so fearful you will fail.
- Depression. This is a slow and insidious result of low self-esteem, making you feel worthless and making life feel hopeless, causing your feelings to spiral downward to deep depression.
Tips For Gaining Self-Esteem
- Separate your sense of self-worth from what you do. If you accidentally do something wrong, understand that that is different from you identity. We are all human all make mistakes everyday.
- Learn to accept compliments. All too often, individuals with low self-esteem dismiss a compliment as unwarranted. But compliments always make someone feel good and it’s important to learn to receive them and be proud of yourself.
- You are human; it’s not all about what you do. So when you do a good job at something, praise yourself for a job well done.
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